[gay friend finder]The Best Hookup Sites for a Sure Thing: Free Sex Dating Sites and Apps You Can Use Right Now

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  Sometimes you don’t want a commitment or the hassle of going on dates – you just want pure no-strings-attached sex.

  We can help with that!

  Whether you’re a man, woman, LGBTQ+, or anything else, here we have the 23 best hookup sites for you that are proven to work with a strong reputation.

  Let’s go!

  First Look at the Top 10:

  Biggest adult dating site – AdultFriendFinder

  Easy hookups with no strings attached – Ashley Madison

  Like Tinder but only hookups – PURE

  Dating site for cosmic personalities – Nuit

  5 times more women than men – Seeking Arrangement

  International hookups – Blendr

  Fast local hookups – CasualSexOnly

  Best free hookup app – Tinder

  Hookup app designed for threesomes – Feeld

  Free hookup site for kinks and fetishes – Fetlife

  Free use – We chose the best hookup sites that offer free sign-up and allow you to have access to essential features before you may opt to pay for more additional features.

  Success rate – Some websites will have you wait for ages before you get a hookup. We looked and chose reputable and well-geared sites to help you easily land a hookup.

  Security features – You’ve heard stories of dating sites putting people in danger. We looked up those with dependable built-in security features for you… just in case!

  Features – Many apps offer non-interesting options to find you a match. For you, we chose those with additional features like filter options, preferences, and kinks for a better shot.

  User reviews – We checked app store reviews, testimonials, and forum discussions and chose the best adult dating sites with the highest average review for each category.

  Adult Friend Finder


  All about sex

  Very active network

  Live stream erotic content

  Many communication options


  Too many ads

  Unappealing user interface

  Founded in 1996, Adult Friend Finder currently boasts an active user network of 108 million users (80% men 20% women), most between 18-24.

  Well, the user base is about thrice Canada’s current population on a dating app. So you don’t have to worry about getting matches.

  For regular use, you are offered a search filter tool to narrow down suggested users,? amongst other features like:

  Live streams

  Hotlist – add other users to show extra interest

  Blogs – your homepage?

  Although there is a free membership, you can opt for a monthly subscription from $39.95 – $19.95 to access more communication features.

  Adult Friend Finder payment options include:

  Bank transfers

  Credit/debit card

  Mobile phone

  If you’re looking for somewhere to wet your whistle, AFF is a brilliant place to start. With a huge user base and a clear sex-based theme, there’s no ambiguity here – everybody wants sex.



  Free for women

  Great security features?

  Has a panic button

  Good reputation


  No auto matching

  Ads are common

  Launched in 2002, Ashley Madison currently has about 60 million global users and operates on a no strings attached policy.? So you won’t have to worry about that WHAT-ARE-WE-NOW? text.

  Ashley Madison has a balanced 1: 1.13 female to male ratio with an age range of 18-35, so there are high chances you might get laid.

  You can call, chat, send winks, and there are other additional privacy features if you would like some anonymity.

  Ashley Madison is free to use for women, however, you’ll have to buy credits from $44 to message women if you’re a man.

  Ashley Madison payment options:

  Credit card?




  Free for women

  Pleasant user interface

  Unlimited free messaging


  1 hour limit to text a match

  No matching algorithm

  Launched in 2014, PURE caters to people seeking instant sexual adventures.

  63% of its users are women against 37% men, so you have a good chance at getting laid – especially if you’re a man.

  The site offers you a 1-hour limit to initiate a chat with a compatible user before your profile self-destructs. That’s how much they insist on you getting a fast hookup.?

  Like, really fast.

  You can also send a geo-request to find potential matches near you.

  The site is free for women. However, as a man, you can opt for a monthly subscription after the free trial from 29.99 to access more anonymity features and send geo-requests.?

  PURE verifies photos to help remove fake accounts/bots.



  LGBTQ+ friendly

  Pleasant interface?

  Has a mobile app


  No matching system

  Pointless if you don’t believe in cosmic personalities

  Launched in 2017, Nuit seeks to match users using the compatibility of their cosmic personalities (star signs). The majority user base is aged between 18-24, most of them female users.

  The site works by making cosmic personality traits for you from your birthday details and generates a personalized astrology chart, giving you and other users instant talking points to discuss.

  Oh, and it’s 100% free!

  The dating site does not pick or suggest potential matches for you; it gives you guidelines to find compatible users. That could be a good thing or a bad thing depending on the kind of person you are!



  Quick sign up

  5 times more women than men

  Mutual benefits

  Simple interface



  Lengthy income verification process

  Launched in 2006, Seeking currently boasts 20 million global users, most between 25-34. However, there are many older men on the site who want to be sugar daddies to younger women.

  If you have preferences for a sugar daddy/mommy/baby; you can narrow it down using the search filter tool.?

  Yes, even down to body type and net worth.

  Both sugar daddies/mommies/babies can use gift cards (to express extra interest) and private photos that only users you choose can view.?

  You can use a free trial, although you can opt for a monthly subscription for $79.95 to access more profile features.

  The hookup app can be used in 7 major languages and verifies photos so you encounter little to no fake accounts/bots.



  Good verification

  Strict safety features

  Large user base

  Easy to use interface


  Lengthy subscription canceling

  Too many pop-ups on the standard account

  Launched in 2011, Blendr is a geolocation-based app with a user base of about 250 million (40% women and 60% men) with the majority between ages 25-34.

  The hookup app allows you to find nearby users using the GPS function. Others you can use are:

  Encounters; you can swipe through profiles like in Tinder

  Virtual gifts

  You can also have a free membership, however, to send messages you must pay a? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? monthly subscription from $14.99.

  Before you start the Blendr experience, the site verifies your account to make sure it is legitimate, in turn reducing fake/bot accounts.

  Always a plus!



  Huge user pool

  Fully functioning free site

  LGBTQ+ friendly

  No message limits


  Few users in small towns

  100 profile swipe limit every 12 hours

  Launched in 2012, Tinder is the Facebook of dating sites – everyone is/was on it. It has a user base of 66 million (72% male and 28% female) most aged between 18-35.

  Users browse through profile matches using the classic swipe feature; right to like and left to pass. Other features include:

  Near you

  Sexual preferences


  You can access all the essential Tinder features with a free account with limited likes and 100 swipes. However, for additional features, monthly memberships cost:

  Tinder plus – from $9.99

  Tinder gold – from $21.99

  Tinder platinum – depends on 24-hour region (usually 5 or 6 dollars more than gold)

  Tinder uses photo verification to weed out fake/bot accounts, so you’re pretty unlikely to get catfished… but you should always stay vigilant!



  Incognito option available

  Simple easy to use interface

  LGBTQ+ friendly

  Relatively small user base


  No desktop version

  Facebook registration required

  Launched in 2014, Feeld currently has a global user base of over 2 million (40% females and 60% males) with most users aged between 25-34.

  The app offers you several features like:

  Hide – protects your profile from being seen by Facebook friends

  Connecting in the future – when you match with someone you know, you can raincheck

  Last seen

  Detailed user information

  The free version lets you have access to the essential features. If you want more access to privacy and other additional features, a monthly subscription starts from $14.99 with discounts if you opt for a longer subscription.

  Feeld verifies accounts linked using Facebook to stop fake accounts, ensuring you have a good experience.



  Active kink community

  Has mobile app

  Wide features for free users

  Active dating community


  Unpleasant website

  Very limited free trial

  Launched in 2008 for the kink and fetish community, FetLife currently has a global user base of 8 million (25% females 75% males) most aged between 25-34 (according to pleasure-seeker.com).

  You can find users with the same fetishes/kinks as you using an in-depth search filter tool that allows you to narrow down to specifics. You can also post journals, photos, and videos.

  Really get people turned on!

  You are allowed a free membership, however, you’ll have access to only a few basic and filter features. For an immersive experience, you can opt for a paid membership from $5/month.

  You can pay using:

  Credit/debit card

  Bank transfer


  Direct debit



  Easy approval for ad

  No registration needed

  City search filter tool


  Many fake accounts

  Thousands of ads posted in a day

  Craigslist Missed Encounters is aimed at giving people second chances to meet people they saw but didn’t really interact with.?

  So, who is looking for who?

  59% of men are looking for women

  27% of men are looking for fellow men

  13% of the women are looking for a man

  1% of women are looking for a fellow woman

  The site affords you a space to write and post personal ads. However, after 45 days your ad will disappear. You can filter your ads using towns and cities for a better shot to find who you’re seeking.

  It allows for completely 100% free personals.

  Your phone number will only be needed to receive a verification code, so you don’t have to worry about your privacy – it won’t be posted in the ad unless you put it there on purpose.



  Quick sign up

  Relatively balanced female to male ratio

  Many security measures

  Easy to use interface


  Men can’t initiate communication?

  24-hour limit to initiate contact

  Launched in 2014, Bumble has 46 million users globally (45% female and 55% male), most aged 18-29.

  The site allows you to find matches using the swipe feature. Other features at your disposal include:


  Video call

  Voice chat

  The main USP of Bumble is that women make the first move – male users cannot message female users first. This stops the inevitable flood of penis photos that women are often inundated with on these apps.


  Bumble offers you a free membership although with limited swipes every 24 hours and limited search filter options.?

  However, for more features, you can subscribe to a paid monthly membership from $14.99 for Boost and $32.99 for premium.

  Bumble has zero tolerance towards bullying or hate speech, so hateful profiles are banned from the site. You are also offered a block option to stop undesirable texts.



  Many privacy features

  Intuitive website

  Tight security features


  No phone app

  Lengthy password changing process

  No Strings Attached mostly caters to married people looking to have discreet sexual affairs.?

  It currently has a user base of over 3 million (30% female and 70% male) with most users aged between 25-44.

  The site works by offering you a search tool to find users of your preferences. Among other features offered are:

  Cheating tips

  Live webcam

  Member videos

  The site allows you to have a free membership although with limited communication features. For a full-on communication experience, you can subscribe to a paid monthly membership for $29.95.

  You won’t be able to customize your password on signing up, as the site uses email verification to eventually protect you from fake/bot accounts.



  Relatively balanced female to male ratio

  Matches & conversations don’t expire

  Has conversation prompts

  Effective matchmaking system


  No photos

  Only on the mobile app

  Hinged was launched in 2012 and currently has a user base of 15 million globally (45% women and 55% men) most aged between 24-32.

  Hinge suggests compatible users by using a matchmaking algorithm.? If you want to filter down further to your preferences, you can use the search tool.?

  Other features are:

  Who liked me

  We met – you tell the Hinge team how the date went

  Video prompts to help you break the ice

  A free membership allows you to have up to 10 free matches daily. For unlimited matches, you can pay for a subscription from $9.99.

  To beef up security, Hinge has online moderators who review in-app and user reports to help you have a safer online environment when hooking up on the app.

  Victoria Milan


  A panic button

  Upholds discretion

  Multiple features


  Expensive compared to other dating sites

  The mobile app has no panic button

  Victoria Milan is a dating app based on highly discreet hookups, so you can comfortably get laid knowing nobody is telling anybody a thing!

  The site has a global user pool of 6 million (55% male and 45% female), with most users aged between 25 – 34.

  You don’t have to worry about being caught on the wrong foot as VM has a panic button to save you the blushes by signing out of all devices instantly.?

  Among other features offered are:


  Anonymous blur (to blur pictures)

  Although you can have a free membership, for an immersive communication experience you can subscribe for:

  $149.97 for 3 months

  $239.94 for 6 months

  $359.99 for 1 month

  All emails are verified during registration to reduce fake/bot profiles. We love to see it.



  Good safety tools

  Good matchmaking system

  Educative blog

  Effective customer care


  Lengthy personality test

  Expensive compared to other hookup sites

  Launched in 2009, Elite Single currently has more than 13 million users globally (43% male 57% female) with most aged 33-50.

  The USP of this site is that it matches smart, educated, or just well-to-do business people with others in their own league. If you only want hookups with smart and/or rich people, then look no further!

  The site works by giving you a personality test for its matchmaking algorithm to use for suggesting compatible matches for you. You can tweak these using the search filter tool.

  Other features include:

  Elite Singles Magazine

  Upload and view photos

  Verified profiles

  Although you can have a free membership, for a full interaction you can opt for a paid membership from $59.95.?

  For you to have a good user experience; ES has in-depth account verification to stop fake accounts and bots from finding their way in.



  Huge user base

  Good search tool?

  Quick sign up

  Affordable membership options


  Many ads on the free trial

  No video chat

  Launched in 2007, Zoosk has a current user base of 50 million; 48% of them male and 52% female.

  Zoosk works by matching you to compatible users using its “Smart Pick” technology. You can also use features like:

  Carousel: swipe feature to browse profiles

  Facebook verification

  You can use a free membership for basic features and see how the site works.?

  However, to access communication features you can pay a monthly subscription from $29.95 (It gets cheaper with the more months you commit).

  You can pay using;




  American express

  Zoosk verifies accounts using Facebook and disables fake accounts. Take THAT fake accounts.



  Live chat

  Good Privacy options

  24/7 phone support

  Effective search tool


  Very limited free accounts

  User unfriendly mobile phone experience

  Alt.com is one of the oldest dating sites, having launched back in 1995. It currently has a user base of over 3 million (20% female and 80% male) most aged between 25-34.

  The site is preferred by people seeking to explore BDSM and bondage, as well as other kinks and fetishes that may be seen as taboo in some circles.?

  Alt.com offers you a wide variety of interactive features like:

  Hot or not – rate photos

  Astrological compatibility

  My kinks – see who’s into the same fetish as you

  Live chat

  You can access free membership, although limited to a few interactive features. For a full experience, you can pay a monthly subscription from $19.95.

  To proceed after signing up, you’ll have to verify your email to the moderators. This is to stop fake accounts from registering and clogging up the place – helpful!



  Quick sign up process

  Most features are available for free users

  Multiple social communication and forums


  Saves credit card details (auto-renewal of subscriptions)

  Filtering options for paid profiles only

  Launched in? 2013, HER has a current global user base of more than 7 million – all queer females or non-binary people, most aged between 25-34.?

  The app allows you to have a wide range of communication features like:

  Meet: find your tribe – users that match your preferences

  Feed: live chat with users you aren’t friends with or haven’t matched with

  You can have a free membership with all the essential features. However for a paid membership from $14.99 a month you can access features like:

  Unlimited swipes?

  Zero Ads

  Rewind profiles?

  Incognito mode?

  HER links to user Facebook and Instagram accounts for verification. This helps keep fakes/bots from the site.



  Quick sign up

  Large user base


  Sex almost guaranteed


  Many ad interruptions

  App glitches sometimes

  Grindr was launched in 2009 to match LGBTQ+ gay men and queer people. It has a current user base of 6 million users, most aged between 18-24.

  Grindr is inclined towards casual relationships and gay hookups as opposed to romantic relationships. It has interactive features like:?

  Profiles near you: suggests nearby users

  Fresh faces: suggests users new to the site

  Flame logo: you send to your interests

  You can use Grindr for free, but to access additional features like more filter tools you can opt for a paid monthly subscription from:

  $18.49 – 1 month

  $36.99 – 3 months

  $92.99 – 12 months

  Grindr performs email verification for new accounts to weed out fake profiles.

  To safeguard your wellbeing even more, they introduced unsend texts, no screenshots on the site, and expiring photos.

  What more can you ask for?



  Many users have verified photos

  Relatively balanced male to female ratio

  Free to message

  No ads on site


  Few users in small towns

  The website has fewer features than the app

  Luxy was launched in 2016 to cater to wealthy people.

  It currently has a user pool of over 4 million (51% women to 49% men), most aged 35-44. However, you can still find users aged way older or younger.?

  The site has a search tool to help you narrow down searches to your preferences. Among other features are:

  Anti-scam feature; filters and eliminates dodgy profiles

  Chat Room

  Send rose – express extra interest

  A free membership allows you to send messages to matches only, to send messages to anyone, and other additional features you chose a paid subscription from $99/month.

  You’ll have to get a 50% minimum approval from user members during the vouching process before you can use the site, so make sure you know the right people!



  Large user base

  Quick sign up

  Good matchmaking algorithm

  Guide for LGBTQ+?


  Limited interaction for free users

  Limited filter tools for free users

  Launched in 2010, Scruff caters to bi, trans and queer guys. The site currently has a user base of 12 million, most aged between 18-24.

  That’s a lot!

  The site has a search filter for you to get users with your specific preferences. You also get updated on the latest queer events around you.?

  An extra communication feature you can access is the Paw button – an alternative way to break the ice and tell someone that you think they’re hot.

  As a security measure for users, SCRUFF partnered with ILGA (The International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association) and came up with a feature to alert users when they get into any one of the 100 countries where homosexuality is criminalized.?

  We appreciate that for sure.



  Easy to use interface

  More women than men

  Good security features


  Limited free user account

  Huge competition

  Casual Sex Only is relatively new, having launched in 2020 for couples looking for casual sexual encounters.

  Most users are aged between 25-30, with a relatively balanced ratio; 53% women against 47% men, so you have a good chance at getting hooked.

  You are offered wide communication options like:

  ‘Wink’ – you can send a wink when instant messaging seems too daunting and you want to break the ice.

  Instant messaging

  Video chat

  Send and receive pictures

  Free membership limits your profile features, however, you can opt for a monthly subscription starting from $39.95 to access more communication options.

  As one of the best hookup sites online, the site regularly verifies user photos to weed out fake/bot profiles, so you’re far less likely to get scammed or catfished!



  Live chat rooms

  Private profiles

  LGBTQ+ friendly

  Quick sign up


  Confusing user interface

  No proof of identity verification

  Launched in 2010, Spicy Desires caters to couples looking to explore with other people – with most users falling between 28-35.

  If watching someone do their thing is your fetish, the voyeur cam would come in handy too.

  You’ll also have video chat for a more personal experience and a swinger loyalty program for commissions.

  Your free membership will however be limited to basic features. You can opt for a free premium trial for $0.99 a day or a paid membership of:

  $59.97 – 1 month subscription

  $64.90 – 3 month subscription

  The site manually approves photos, so you can be assured that the vast majority of the images you see on there will be genuine.

  Hookups are sexual encounters between people who are not in any serious relationship and don’t expect anything other than sex from the encounter.

  Dating on the other hand is where two people in a romantic relationship intently and genuinely try to learn more about the other person with a goal of eventually getting into a serious relationship.

  Yes. Tinder, Bumble, and HER are among free casual sex sites and apps that allow for a fully functional experience for free.?

  (They also have better paid versions).

  Use the right platform for casual sex (i.e. not eHarmony)

  Be clear and authentic about what you want

  Put up multiple photos on your profile

  Actively engage other users and flirt with them

  Yes, but here are a few tips to help:

  Reverse search their images on google (this will weed out stock images and other cheats)

  Don’t give away personal data or information unless you’re sure

  Use a higher quality hookup app to weed out dodgy users and scammers – scammers are less likely to use paid apps

  Be wary of love-struck admirers – don’t lead people on if they’re not looking for a hookup but are looking for love!

  Finding casual sex sites online shouldn’t be hard now, right

  You should pick a hookup app/site best placed to suit your preferences; AdultFriendFinder tends to have the best overall features for you to get a hookup, with its sex-positive community and huge user base making it one of the best hookup sites online.

  Finding people you share sexual chemistry with is fulfilling, however, you should always insist on practicing safe sex. Whichever of these sex sites you end up choosing for your hookup, just make sure to stay safe, follow our tips, and have fun!